09: Is Jealousy Keeping You Ruthless with Dr. Marcia Sirota

“We need to understand that being kind to ourselves has nothing to do with stuffing down our feelings or burying them, or smothering them with consumerism or addiction. It's really about looking inward. Seeing what feelings and what needs are there and trying to find realistic and compassionate solutions.” - Dr. Marcia Sirota

Being kind in our society is unfortunately very rare. Not just kindness to others, but kindness to ourselves as well. 

There seems to be a common theme among society, which is that we experience a lot of negative self-talk which causes us to not be compassionate with ourselves, or others. This can become an issue, especially in intimate relationships, because a lot of the mistrust and jealousy comes from innate negative self-talk where we filter the world through that perception. 

What would happen if you became aware of those filters, and decided to change your perspective to have ruthless compassion for yourself and others? What would your life and relationships look like? 

Forgiving yourself for the past is the first step, and resetting to do better in each moment is the key. You will never be ‘perfect’. This is an impossible standard that we need to do away with. What we can do is improve in every moment with kindness as our anchor.

On today’s episode, we have invited Dr. Marcia Sirota who is a board certified psychiatrist and host of the ‘Ruthless Compassion’ podcast. Who better to help us uncover what it means to be ruthlessly compassionate and cultivate kindness within yourself and others!

Marcia is on a mission to create an army of kindness warriors, because the world is in desperate need of this. Also, having this compassion for yourself could be the turning point for your jealousy in relationships. 

So for all the jealousy junkies out there, we have a challenge for you. Listen in to hear what it is and let us know if it helped you! 

 Topics discussed in this episode:

●      What does it mean to be a kindness warrior

●      Two ways we can have jealousy

●      Importance of a reality check when differentiating jealousy

●      When you need to use ruthless compassion 

●      Importance of slowing down and relaxing to conjure a reality check

●      Difference between being self indulgent, lenient, and kind

●      Importance of having reasonable expectations of yourself

●      Perception through the filter of our past vs. the truth

●      Importance of mindfulness as a tool to cut through our filters

●      The ruthless piece of ruthless compassion

●      The importance of mental flexibility

●      Take every opportunity to be kind

●      A challenge for all the jealousy junkies out there!

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