The Dr. John Delony Show My Husband Spanks Our Kids (I Don’t Like It)
Mar 13, 2026
Lauren, a caller on a health and weight-loss journey, checks how to talk to her kids about major body changes. She and John discuss modeling healthy habits, avoiding scale talk, and simple honest explanations for children. The conversation also touches on setting non-scale goals and managing emotions during change.
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Adult Dysregulation Signals Recreated Childhood Harm
- Paige's physical reaction to her husband hitting their children reveals unresolved childhood trauma and a clear radar for dangerous parenting patterns.
- John points out that an adult who can be emotionally dysregulated by a five-year-old is repeating the harmful dynamics they experienced as kids.
Tell Him You Won't Allow Angry Hitting
- Tell your husband calmly and directly that when his frustration escalates into hitting it terrifies you and you won't allow it to continue.
- Use connection first: hold his hand, say I love you, then name the pattern and insist he walk away when angry.
Lead With Curiosity Not Superiority
- Approach the conversation without moral superiority; invite curiosity rather than accusation so it doesn't become about who's right.
- Start by describing your bodily reaction and history, then ask him to see how his anger shows up and impacts the kids.