Reclaiming Identity Beyond Motherhood | Vanessa Bennett (EP401)

Is motherhood supposed to define everything about who we are as women? In this powerful and eye-opening conversation, therapist and author Vanessa Bennett joins us to discuss her new book The Motherhood Myth—a resource that’s less about parenting tips and more about rediscovering ourselves as whole, complex individuals. Vanessa opens up about her own journey navigating codependency, partnership, and the pressures of modern motherhood—revealing how societal systems shape the way women experience identity and fulfillment. Together, we dive into why motherhood should be part of who we are, not the whole, and how reclaiming individuality creates healthier families and stronger communities.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• The hidden cost of tying your entire identity to motherhood
• How societal myths and expectations keep women stuck in self-sacrifice
• The importance of boundaries, inner work, and self-discovery
• Practical ways to model wholeness and empowerment for your children
• Why reclaiming yourself is not selfish—it’s essential for future generations

While I may not personally agree with every perspective shared in this conversation, I believe it’s important to engage with diverse voices and ideas around motherhood and identity. My hope is that these conversations encourage reflection, dialogue, and deeper understanding as we each navigate what it means to be women and mothers in today’s world.

Links Discussed in This Episode |

• Vanessa's Resource: Marion Woodman
• Vanessa Can't Stop Talking About: 
• Connect with Vanessa:
• Website
• Instagram
• Book: The Motherhood Myth: A Depth Therapist’s Guide to Redefine Parenting, Reimagine Intimacy, and Reclaim the Self

About Vanessa|

Vanessa Bennett, LMFT, is a licensed depth psychotherapist, author, and facilitator known for her no-nonsense yet compassionate approach to personal growth and healing. She is the author of The Motherhood Myth and coauthor of It’s Not Me, It’s You with her partner, John Kim. She also co-hosts the Cheaper Than Therapy podcast. A former New Yorker now based in Costa Rica, Vanessa leads transformational retreats and workshops grounded in Jungian and depth-oriented psychology. Through her writing, teaching, and digital content, she helps others break generational patterns and reconnect with their truest selves. 

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