The Mark Groves Podcast #035: All About Ghosting - Solo Episode
Jul 11, 2019
A deep dive into why people disappear from relationships and the emotional wounds that amplify the sting. Conversations about spotting red flags early and trusting gut instincts. Practical talk on communication choices, boundary-setting, and owning your part if you’ve ghosted. Reflections on how dating dynamics reveal self-worth and how to shift behavior going forward.
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Ghosting Triggers Old Rejection Wounds
- Ghosting often triggers disproportionate pain because it reactivates old wounds of rejection rather than reflecting the low-intimacy context of a few texts.
- Mark Groves explains that strong reactions to brief interactions usually mean unresolved childhood or attachment pain is being replayed in micro rejection.
Chemistry Can Mean You're Eroticizing Pain
- Attraction can be wound-based: chemistry can draw you to people who aren't good for you because you eroticize what hurts.
- Groves calls this 'eroticizing our pain' and links it to choosing unavailable partners despite wide online dating pools.
Filter By Actions Not Promises
- Do watch for red flags where words and actions don't match and for accelerated emotional moves like early L-bombs or rapid trips.
- Groves says these mismatches predict low integrity and deserve curiosity or immediate filtering, not automatic tolerance.