Stillness in the Storms 2 Words You Should Stop Using AND What to Use Instead
Aug 30, 2021
A conversation about dropping the labels 'good' and 'bad' and using 'healthy' versus 'unhealthy' instead. Personal illness stories and Enneagram examples illustrate how traits shift across healthier and unhealthier expressions. The talk covers when mindfulness and emotions serve growth or hinder it, plus how to act on anger constructively and reduce judgment with kinder language.
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Reframe Good/Bad As Healthy/Unhealthy
- Replace 'good' and 'bad' with 'healthy' and 'unhealthy' to reduce moral judgment and shame.
- Use this frame to observe choices without harsh self-criticism and to encourage change.
Illness Reframed As Unhealthy, Not Bad
- Steven Webb describes being extremely unwell and bedridden for two days after antibiotics and anti-sickness tablets.
- He frames that experience as 'a little unhealthy' rather than 'bad', showing the new language in practice.
Traits Are Spectrums, Not Moral Labels
- Viewing traits through healthy/unhealthy spectra reduces self-judgment and encourages growth.
- This view treats behaviors as modifiable patterns rather than fixed moral failures.