Strictly Anonymous Confessions

1411 - Straight Men Can S*** a D*** but Still be Straight! w/ Dr. Joe Kort

Mar 29, 2026
Dr. Joe Kort, a licensed psychotherapist and clinical sexologist, breaks down sexual versus erotic orientation in plain talk. He explores how men can engage in acts with other men without changing their orientation. Topics include origins of fetishes, cross-dressing and gender play, sexual fluidity, identity politics, and why he questions the label of sexual addiction.
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INSIGHT

Erotic Acts Can Be Separate From Orientation

  • Sexual acts can be driven by erotic orientation rather than sexual orientation, so a straight man may enjoy sex with men without being attracted to men generally.
  • Joe Kort explains these men are aroused by the specific act (e.g., giving oral) and the man is incidental, not the object of attraction.
INSIGHT

Separate Sexual Orientation From Erotic Orientation

  • Differentiate sexual orientation (who you want) from erotic orientation (what turns you on).
  • Kort says childhood experiences often eroticize behaviors into an individual's arousal template without changing overall orientation.
ANECDOTE

Cub Scout Knots Sparked A Bondage Fetish

  • Joe Kort recounts a client who discovered bondage arousal first as a cub scout learning knots, suggesting early nonsexual triggers can seed fetishes.
  • The memory felt innate to the client, a pre-sexual spark that persisted into adulthood.
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