Securely Attached Parenting toddlers through power struggles: How to set limits, support independence, and reduce meltdowns with Devon Kuntzman
Devon Kuntzman, toddler expert and author of Transforming Toddlerhood, joins me to explain why the toddler years feel so intense and how understanding development can change everything.
Together we explore:
- How toddlerhood is defined by contradictory needs for independence and attachment and why this creates so much emotional volatility.
- How rapid cognitive, motor, and language development can leave toddlers feeling disoriented and overwhelmed.
- How to slow down power struggles using developmentally informed tools like asking "What's your plan?" and turning "no" into "not yet."
- Why helping toddlers organize their thinking supports regulation, impulse control, and cooperation.
- How parents can stay flexible, grounded, and confident while navigating a stage that naturally pushes everyone's limits.
- How to grab your free spot in Devon's 9th Annual Transforming Toddlerhood Conference being held live virtually from March 11th-15th.
This episode is designed to help parents make sense of toddler behavior through a developmental lens, reduce self-blame, and walk away with practical strategies for setting limits while still supporting independence, emotional growth, and secure attachment.
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💥 Tired of constant battles with your child? Watch my ✨FREE✨ workshop, Overcoming Power Struggles, where I'll teach you the exact strategies I use in my clinical practice to help parents break free from the cycle of yelling, threats, and negotiations—and instead foster cooperation, connection, and calm. Just visit drsarahbren.com/powerstruggles to get instant access to this workshop.
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