Since You Asked with Lori Gottlieb and Gretchen Rubin Should Your Spouse Tell You If They’re Meeting Up with an Ex? Plus: Valentine’s Day Expectations
Feb 10, 2026
Conversations about honesty, secrecy, and where privacy ends in long term relationships. A listener dilemma about an annual meetup with an ex sparks debate about trust. Reflections on Valentine’s Day expectations, from quiet nights to grand gestures. Stories about memorable Valentine’s moments and ideas for simple, sustainable family traditions.
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Telling Children About Donor Conception
- Several listeners described revealing donor conception early and the relief that followed when secrets were removed.
- One mother waited until her teens and found openness lightened the family's burden and improved communication.
Thoughtfulness Beats Grandiosity
- Thoughtfulness matters more than scale for romantic gestures; personal meaning trumps size.
- People often downplay desires to avoid disappointment, which then causes real resentment.
Say What You Want For Holidays
- If you care about how a holiday is celebrated, say so clearly instead of pretending not to care.
- Tell your partner your expectations to avoid disappointment and miscommunication.
