On Purpose with Jay Shetty MEL ROBBINS: How to Stop People-Pleasing Without Feeling Guilty (Follow THIS Simple Rule to Set Boundaries and Stop Putting Yourself Last!)
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Jan 14, 2026 
Mel Robbins, a best-selling author and motivational speaker, joins Jay for an engaging conversation about breaking free from the shackles of people-pleasing. She emphasizes the importance of choosing oneself over gaining external approval and shares practical strategies to quiet the inner critic. Mel highlights how desperation can drive significant changes, encourages listeners to redefine jealousy as a signal for personal growth, and highlights the necessity of honoring one's needs for genuine wellbeing.
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Use Mantras And Your Name To Break Negative Talk
- Create a meaningful mantra and speak to yourself by name to disrupt negative self-talk.
- Write it down, say it aloud, visualize yourself acting that way to reprogram thinking.
Stop Waiting To Be 'Ready' To Live
- Stop waiting until you 'look' or 'are ready' to live the life you want.
- Do the actions now (join the gym, show up) because waiting enforces self-rejection.
Reframe People-Pleasing As A Strategy
- Reframe people-pleasing as a manipulative strategy you learned, not weakness.
- Call it out in the moment to catch yourself saying yes when you mean no.
