Accountability in other people: Listener question

Thank you for all your amazing courses.  I continue to listen and learn every day and am finding what you teach invaluable in so many ways. 

I was listening to your podcast a couple of days ago entitled 'resistance, acceptance and choice' and the idea of ultimate accountability resonates with me (this also links with the story you told about the young girl working with Byron Katie who said her Dad bullied her. Byron Katie asked the girl that if her father was holding a gun to her head and said 'clean the shoes or be shot' and the girl chooses to be shot, who really pulled the trigger?  Byron Katie says, the girl.   

So I'm intrigued by ultimate accountability/responsibility. 

My question is, can this be applied to any situation?  Say for example, a young person comes to me to say they are being bullied. If we explore what the young person's options are to try and resolve the situation and it comes to light that there are options that they haven't fully considered or followed through on, can it be right to say that the young person is choosing to be bullied?  And what if they have explored all of their options and there is still bullying happening? 

And then there's the part of exploring with the young person where they too might be displaying bullying behaviour somewhere in their life towards someone/something else. (the inner reflecting outwards). 

It feels harsh to suggest all this to a vulnerable young person, but at the same time, if this is their route to truth and freedom then it needs to be spoken.