[INSPIRE 50] JOE & MALI - HOW TO CREATE AN EXTRAORDINARY RELATIONSHIP, BETTER SEX & LIFELONG HAPPINESS! Spiritual | Self-Help

Whether you’re on a quest for your special someone, or want to take your relationship to an entirely new level, then do we have the show for you!

Today we’re interviewing Mali Apple and Joe Dunn, relationship coaches extraordinaire, speakers, and best-selling authors of The Soulmate Experience and the Soulmate Lover.

Today we’ll be talking about attracting a soulmate, nourishing your soulmate, being a soulmate, and a soulmate approach to life…That, plus maybe just a bit on sex, something they’re known to write about too!

Topics Include:

1. Being Mindful
2. Playing with the edge to keep things new and fresh
3. What is a soulmate experience
   1. Anyone can have this experience of total connection – doesn’t require a one and only
   2. Soulmate experience can be with anyone
      1. Family
      2. Co-workers
      3. Friends

4. Begins with the relationship of yourself
   1. Not looking for someone else to complete you or to fix your self-esteem
   2. Why Tom Cruise’s “You Completely” is dangerous!
5. Helping the other heal brings you closer together
6. Being able to reframe everything
7. How am I looking at my reality? How I’m looking at the world completely effects my world.
8. Body image – The Importance of Being Comfortable With One’s Body
   1. How it’s a mirror at the county fair.
   2. How we see ourselves is not how others, or our spouse sees us.
9. When we look at ourselves we see the things we don’t like and we reinforce them
   1. Instead we should be looking for the Mirror-cles
10. Self-inventory – look at every aspect of who you are
    1. Including addictions
       1. Including social media – that pull towards is there something important
    2. Reducing baggage
    3. How do you become aware of your baggage?
       1. Go ask your last partner!
       2. Sometimes baggage isn’t really baggage, but could be gifts
          1. Such as kids, which you may think are “baggage” where others see they’re incredible gifts!
          2. Re-framing “baggage” as an asset is incredibly empowering.
       3. Often don’t see our own talents and abilities
          1. Ask your best friends “what are my free greatest gifts?”
       4. Having a magical space where negativity doesn’t exist.
       5. Scrubbing away the negativity
          1. Changing your mind
          2. Loving your body
          3. Removing your baggage
          4. Raising your soulmate potential – the mindsets to give you the greatest potential to find and maintain a really incredible potential
          5. One very practical thing you can do, look at the expectations you have and see how many are valid and how many can you do without. The more you can do without the more likely you’ll be able to connect with someone on a soul level.
             1. Letting go of all the superficial stuff that gets in the way
          6. Law of attraction
             1. The most powerful way is to get the feeling and the energy and let go of the particulars of what that looks like. The universe knows better than you…let go of the limiting beliefs and need to control and trust the universe.
             2. Don’t be limited by your list
             3. Mali would have never have found Joe
             4. Have an energetic feeling and let the rest go.
             5. Staying in a place of gratitude – they’re just temporary, they’re just a guest.
             6. Staying in touch with the fact of how short our lives are, but helps us stay in touch with the gratitude
             7. Having a guest card, like a get-out-of-jail card.
             8. What is true commitment?
                1. Not a fearful or manipulative thing.
                2. Most people’s commitment is coming from a place of fear

• Should be commitment made out of love

1. Do you need to keep repeating a commitment to love to yourself – staying mindful
   1. Is awareness of the great relationship and wanting it to continue
2. “Context” an idea of what you have to offer to the relationship
   1. Idea of what I have to offer rather than what you have to give
3. Why jealousy can be a good thing!
   1. A very juicy, alive feeling.
   2. Often attracted to other people, how you deal with that is what’s most important

• She wants him to be attracted to other people, keeps him feeling alive

1. Free to be yourself

1. Why innocent flirtation can be healthy
   1. Playful I see you, you see me
2. How to move past resentments
3. Making positive changes allows you to attract the person in your life
4. Do internal work before you’re ready to attract someone
5. The partner game of “leapfrog”
6. Not working on relationships, but embracing it.
   1. If you want a really amazing relationship, continually explore what makes your relationship amazing.
7. The importance of having “no agenda”
8. Pushing the “edge” in relationships
   1. Doing things you’re uncomfortable with.
   2. The edge is where the party is happening
9. Experiencing your partners passion
10. Work on relationship vs. play with relationship
11. Connecting on a soul level
12. The Law of Attraction and Relationships

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