Joining Andy and Tim, our guest Jen shares how complex trauma shaped her identity long before she had words for it. Growing up with ADHD, emotional gaps, and a persistent sense of “badness,” she learned to survive by adapting to others, carrying emotions that weren’t hers, and losing connection to herself. Together with Tim Fletcher, the conversation explores pre-verbal trauma, shame, attachment patterns, marriage strain, nervous system healing, and why menopause can intensify trauma symptoms for women. This episode offers clarity, validation, and hope for anyone who feels like healing hasn’t worked or wonders why things suddenly got harder later in life.

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