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Re-Air: Drs. John & Julia Gottman: This Predicts Divorce!

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Feb 13, 2026
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Julie Gottman
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John Gottman
Dr. Julie Gottman, clinical psychologist co-leading The Gottman Institute, and Dr. John Gottman, relationship researcher from the Love Lab, explain what predicts relationship breakdown. They cover the Four Horsemen, bids for connection and the power of small rituals, how trauma and addiction shape partnerships, affairs and recovery phases, and technology, sex, and health links to relationship quality.
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ADVICE

Ask With Positive Needs

  • Present needs as your feelings and positive desires rather than blaming your partner.
  • Ask for specific actions (e.g., "Give me a hug when you walk in") to make it easy to respond.
ADVICE

Build Rituals To Fight Managerial Drift

  • Create predictable rituals of connection (e.g., weekly dream time) to protect romance from managerial demands.
  • Intentionally schedule play, cuddling, and shared learning to keep the relationship alive.
INSIGHT

The Four Horsemen Predict Divorce

  • The Four Horsemen (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling) predict relationship collapse.
  • Contempt is the most corrosive and harms the listener's immune system.
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