Slo Mo: A Podcast with Mo Gawdat Dr. Kristin Neff - The Yin and Yang of Self-Compassion
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Sep 30, 2020 AI Snips
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Self-Compassion Beats Contingent Self-Esteem
- Self-compassion offers a stable alternative to contingent self-esteem because it doesn't depend on being better than others or on success.
- Kristin framed self-compassion as valuing yourself because you're a flawed human like everyone else, making it more stable than self-esteem.
Self-Criticism As A Safety Strategy
- Self-criticism is often an automatic fight-or-flight response intended to keep us safe, not rational self-improvement.
- Self-compassion offers an alternative safety strategy by creating connection, lowering reactivity, and calming the nervous system.
Practice The Three Elements Framework
- When suffering arises, use three elements: kindness, mindfulness, and common humanity to respond to yourself effectively.
- Be aware of pain, treat yourself with caring words or touch, and remember others share your struggles.