The Angry Therapist Podcast How Past Wounds Distort Your Definition of Love
Apr 8, 2026
They explore how childhood wounds and past relationships shape our internal blueprint for love. The conversation highlights parental scripts, cultural myths, and relationship residue that warp expectations. Common distorted definitions like love as possession, completion, or self-sacrifice are named. The talk points toward redefining love around interdependence, repair, and personal growth.
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Definitions Become Your Autopilot Map
- Definitions act as internal maps that guide decisions and narrow perception, often running on autopilot until questioned.
- John Kim explains childhood, media, school, and peers all seed these maps, causing people to live others' truths instead of their own.
Success Without Soul From Living Someone Else's Dream
- John Kim recounts being pushed into law despite wanting to be a breakdancer, ending up successful but hollow.
- He describes dyslexia/ADHD later discovered, long hours, BMW and 401k but a 'faster inner death'.
Love Blueprints Are Inherited Like Career Scripts
- Love definitions form like success definitions: inherited templates from family, culture, and media that can misalign with your truth.
- Kim lists examples (marry young, stay together at all costs, enmeshment) showing variety of handed-down scripts.
