Become New with John Ortberg 37. The Real Reason Why We Judge Others
Mar 18, 2026
A look at why condemnation starts in how we see people, not just what we say. A clear distinction between simple observation and value judgments. Stories showing how noticing facts can replace harsh evaluations. Reflections on seeing others as image-bearers and asking what Jesus would notice. A practical daily practice to shift perception and respond with curiosity instead of contempt.
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Observation Versus Evaluation
- Observing is perceiving reality accurately while evaluating assigns judgment, value, or preference.
- John Ortberg contrasts observation (e.g., last night you ate two Twinkies) with evaluation (e.g., you eat like a pig) to show how perception shifts into condemnation.
Staff Example That Reveals Nonverbal Condemnation
- Marshall Rosenberg recounts an elementary school staff labeling their principal 'big mouth' instead of describing specific behaviors.
- When the principal spoke in meetings the staff rolled eyes and later bluntly told him, Ed, you have a big mouth, illustrating nonverbal condemnation becoming verbal.
Perception Is A Moral Act
- Perception itself is a moral act because how we see people largely determines our choices and responses.
- Iris Murdoch's story shows changing one's way of looking can transform attitudes that previously led to condemnation.
