456: The 2 Dumb Mistakes Smart Couples Make, & Why Money Isn’t the Problem with Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier

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If you’re married — or if you ever plan to be, which I hope you do — today’s conversation is a must-listen. I’m in conversation with  Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier of Lakewood, New Jersey — author of Ten Really Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make. You might know Rabbi Shafier already from TheShmuz.com, or from some of his books. Today we bring you an incredibly practical, eye-opening conversation.

Here’s something you’ve asked many times and Rabbi Shafier addresses head on: Whose responsibility is it to provide financially for the family? And what about when the husband is in kollel? 

Rabbi Shafier also boils the 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that very smart couples make down to just two. And trust me, you’ve probably made them.

We get into the one thing that causes every single fight in marriage. Spoiler: it’s not money.
The three pillars of a successful marriage.
The two most important words in marriage.
And ladies, the one thing that will absolutely shatter your husband. (So you can avoid it!)

We discuss the role of financial provision and the role of managing the finances — and who should really be doing what. The answer may surprise you.

And if you want to improve communication with your spouse, Rabbi Shafier gives you the exact question to ask yourself before you speak — plus the acronym that will transform your shalom bayit (and honestly, every relationship in your life).

Here’s Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier.

 

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