18Forty Podcast David Bashevkin: My Dating Story [Re-Release]
Aug 12, 2025
Dive into an enlightening discussion on the challenges of modern dating. Explore how personal experiences shape our understanding of commitment while navigating faith and emotional health. Gain insights on balancing religious identity with romantic aspirations. Discover the transformative nature of solitude and the evolving definition of home. Reflect on growth and connection in relationships, and learn why true commitment is essential for meaningful love.
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Choice Makes Commitment Harder
- Modern optionality increases choice but makes commitment harder because endless alternatives undermine settling.
- David links dating struggles to a broader difficulty committing to work, community, and self in modern life.
Pesach Seder Spent Alone
- David described living alone in Washington Heights and feeling like his whole life was a Sukkah: impermanent and unable to connect to holidays.
- He recounted spending a Pesach seder alone and later writing about solitude as formative, not only painful.
The Bermuda Triangle Of Your 20s
- David frames the 20s as a 'Bermuda Triangle' where romantic, religious, and professional identities frequently vanish or shift.
- Failure to resolve these three points simultaneously creates deep instability in emerging adulthood.
