
Education Leaders | Strategic School Leadership How to Tackle Self-Doubt
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Jan 26, 2026 A leader wakes with heavy shame after imperfect work and unpacks the physical and emotional experience. The show explores the difference between shame and guilt and why that matters for high standards. It reframes imposter feelings as potential and contrasts character with momentary competence. Practical steps for managing shame and when to be strategically vulnerable are shared.
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Morning Spiral After Imperfect Work
- Shane Leaning woke up with a heavy, sickly feeling after delivering work that wasn’t his absolute best.
- He spiraled from imperfect work to believing he didn’t belong, showing how high performers punish themselves harder.
Guilt Versus Shame Matters
- Brené Brown distinguishes guilt (I did something bad) from shame (I am bad).
- Shame links to depression and anxiety while guilt can be protective and constructive.
Name The Feeling, Then Distance It
- Name the physical sensations to create distance and recognise when shame is speaking.
- Remind yourself that thoughts are first drafts and you don't have to believe every thought.




