I Have ADHD Podcast 248 Stop Saying Sorry
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Jan 30, 2024 In this podcast, the host discusses the negative effects of constantly apologizing. They explore different types of apologies and the underlying reasons behind them. They also discuss the impact of cultural expectations and the importance of expressing gratitude instead. The podcast emphasizes the importance of authentic conversations and breaking free from people-pleasing behaviors.
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Cultural Habit Explains Many Automatic Apologies
- Saying sorry is often cultural and instinctual, not always a moral admission.
- Brienne notes Canadians and Brits apologize more frequently (about 16 vs 10), illustrating cultural wiring behind some apologies.
Sorry Hides Reassurance Seeking
- Many apologies mask a negative self-image and are actually reassurance-seeking.
- Saying "I'm sorry" becomes a way to fish for validation instead of naming insecurity directly.
Apologizing In Labor Shows Habitual Impact Guilt
- Brienne described apologizing during labor while in pain, saying "I'm so sorry" repeatedly even though nurses expected to help.
- The habit came from feeling like a negative impact despite the nurses' role.