Do you really know? How can I recognise a flying monkey, the narcissistic abuser’s best friend?
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Jan 6, 2026 Explore the intriguing dynamics of narcissistic abusers and their accomplices, dubbed 'flying monkeys.' Discover the surprising origin of this term from The Wizard of Oz and the manipulative behaviors of these helpers, including spreading lies and isolating victims. Learn how narcissistic abusers select their flying monkeys based on traits like low self-esteem. Finally, equip yourself with effective strategies to handle these tricky relationships, including setting boundaries and maintaining a skeptical mindset.
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Origin And Role Of Flying Monkeys
- Flying monkeys are accomplices used by narcissistic abusers to maintain control and harass targets.
- The term comes from The Wizard of Oz, where the Wicked Witch uses flying monkeys as minions to terrorise Dorothy.
Typical Behaviors Of Flying Monkeys
- Flying monkeys spread rumours, isolate victims, minimise abuse and blame the victim for being 'too sensitive'.
- They often lack awareness of the harm they cause and thus remain complicit in the manipulator's actions.
Why People Become Flying Monkeys
- Narcissistic abusers often choose flying monkeys who have low self-esteem and are easy to manipulate.
- These accomplices gain proximity to power and avoid consequences, which keeps them loyal to the NA.