Become New with John Ortberg 19. What to Say When You Make a Mistake
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Jun 3, 2021 A meditative take on how to respond when you mess up. Anecdotes, including a cello coaching moment, model saying “how fascinating” instead of condemning. Explores growth versus fixed mindsets and why mistakes mean you are learning. Uses Scripture and stories, like Peter and Eugene Peterson, to illustrate perseverance and worth apart from performance.
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Ben Zander Cellist Reframe
- John Ortberg recounts Ben Zander coaching a nervous 15-year-old cellist who made a visible mistake during performance.
- Zander told the student to throw his hands up and say How fascinating to reframe mistakes as learning moments.
No Condemnation Frees You To Fail
- Romans 8:1 declares there is now no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus, framing worth as fixed not contingent on performance.
- Ortberg uses this theology to argue believers can live condemnation-free and freely make mistakes.
Say How Fascinating When You Fail
- When you make a mistake, say How fascinating instead of shrinking or self-condemning to reframe it as an opportunity to learn.
- This response turns mistakes into chances for growth rather than signals of failure.
