Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties Episode 63: Cani Getadate
Sep 30, 2019
They tackle rebuilding relationships after breakups and whether exes can truly try again. Dating profile dos and don'ts get quick, practical tips on photos, tone, and declaring intentions. Conversations cover STI stigma, threats, and reclaiming worth. There is also guidance on forgiving yourself, preventing codependency, and doing the personal work needed to change.
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Let Friends Curate Your Photos
- Let trusted friends pick and order your photos and edit your profile text to remove blind spots about what looks attractive.
- Sierra recommends a face photo up front and avoiding headless torsos to appear less sketchy.
Rebuilding Needs Slow Intentional Labor
- Rebuilding a past relationship into a new form requires slow, intentional work and repeated choices to break old habits.
- Sam and Sierra stress daily practice, difficult conversations, and accountability to change codependent patterns.
Pair Forgiveness With Reparations
- Forgive past grievances but pair forgiveness with visible reparative actions and accountability so wounds can actually heal.
- Sierra warns forgiveness alone fails if behaviors don't change; reparation and time are essential.