The Hook Up Why Are There So Many Fake Doms?
Jun 30, 2025
They dig into why dom/sub labels are booming on dating apps and whether people actually understand them. They read listener stories about partners who cross boundaries and when dominance slips into abuse. They talk safety, consent, safe words and aftercare. They give practical questions to vet someone claiming dominance and encourage careful, consensual experimentation.
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Pop Culture Masks Kink Origins
- Many people use 'dom'/'sub' from pop culture without understanding kink origins or rules.
- Dee Salmon and Pip Rasmussen stress these terms come from kink and carry responsibilities around consent and safety.
Hinge Date Turned Painful
- Brie met a guy on Hinge who called himself dominant and insisted on positions that left her in pain.
- She felt he wanted to 'own' her pleasure and was unsure if that equaled real dominance.
Label Used To Excuse Assault
- Multiple listeners described being slapped or strangled by partners who labeled themselves doms without consent.
- These experiences often left people traumatized and surprised the behaviour was excused by the 'dom' label.
