Dhru Purohit Show

#213: Hunt, Gather, Parent with Dr. Michaeleen Doucleff

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May 13, 2021
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INSIGHT

Control Versus Collaboration In Parenting

  • Western parenting over-interferes and treats relationships as control battles, whereas studied cultures guide and collaborate instead.
  • Trying to control children produces resistance; parents in the book purposefully avoid heavy-handed control.
ADVICE

Give Kids Autonomy By Cutting Commands

  • Limit directives to roughly three commands per hour to create real autonomy for children and reduce power struggles.
  • Doucleff counted her instructions and found other cultures speak to children only once or twice an hour.
INSIGHT

Autonomy Protects Mental Health

  • Lack of autonomy links to rising childhood anxiety and depression because children feel their lives are out of their control.
  • Studies tie autonomy to confidence, executive function, school performance and lower mental-health risk.
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