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The Reason Prayer Feels Impossible (And It's Not Your Fault) w/ Wes Ellis

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Mar 13, 2026
Wes Ellis, practical theologian, pastor, and author of Abiding in Amen, argues prayer feels impossible because modern life turns it into a performance. He explores how achievement culture, digital distraction, and the desire for control colonize our inner life. He reframes prayer as receiving God’s movement, abiding, and cultivating wasted space rather than mastering a technique.
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Why Prayer Feels Like A Performance

  • Prayer often becomes a source of shame because secularization frames it as a human performance we must master.
  • Wes Ellis diagnoses modern prayer anxiety as the result of treating prayer as self-optimization rather than a received gift initiated by God.
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Discipline Misfits Prayer

  • Discipline language misleads when applied to prayer because modern discipline implies grit and mastery.
  • Ellis cites Henri Nouwen: prayer is a paradox you learn but ultimately receive as gift, not a skill to perfect by will alone.
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Prayer As God's Initiative

  • Reframe prayer as God's movement toward humans, not humans clambering up to God.
  • Ellis argues theology and anthropology should start with divine initiative: we're 'in being addressed' rather than autonomous agents.
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