Mastering Coaching Skills 280. From Doubt to Purpose: Kyle Miller's Personal Journey Into Coaching
Mar 10, 2026
Kyle Miller, a coach who helps survivors of narcissistic abuse with lived experience and years in personal development. He talks about his journey from truck driver to coach. He shares turning points that revealed emotional abuse, the sacrifices he made to train, and how doubt, visibility fears, and community shaped his mission.
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From Abusive Relationship To Niche Focus
- Kyle left a 14-year abusive relationship and later realized he was working for a narcissist, which informed his niche choice.
- Multiple counselors helped, but coaching was more useful, leading him to specialize in supporting survivors of narcissistic abuse.
How Emotional Abuse Hides In Small Incidents
- Emotional abuse often appears as many small incidents that, when strung together, create the harm survivors experience.
- Kyle learned to 'package' events so coaches understood the cumulative pattern instead of asking only about the client's part.
Phrase Support To Avoid Triggering Shame
- Avoid well-meaning but triggering language when supporting abuse survivors; prioritize phrasing that reduces shame and judgment.
- Kyle emphasizes knowing nuanced subtleties in what not to say to prevent retraumatizing clients.