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20th Anniversary celebration with non-fiction writers Lisa Taddeo, Malcolm Gladwell, Anne Lamott, Maria Konnikova, and Alain de Botton

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Sep 2, 2025
In this special celebration, acclaimed authors Lisa Taddeo, Malcolm Gladwell, Maria Konnikova, and Alain de Botton share their insights on love, trust, and the human experience. Taddeo delves into the emotional struggles featured in her work about women's desires. Gladwell discusses the intricacies of manipulation and accountability in human behavior. Konnikova highlights the balance of emotion and specificity in writing about sex, while de Botton explores the philosophy of everyday life. Together, they reveal the power of storytelling in shaping our understanding of relationships.
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INSIGHT

Commitment Forces Unedited Intimacy

  • Long-term relationships force exposure to partners' damaged sides and create unavoidable intimacy.
  • De Botton suggests editing exposure sometimes protects partners rather than abandoning intimacy.
ANECDOTE

Conned In New York: The Wallet Trick

  • Maria Konnikova recounts being conned with a classic wallet trick that cost her all her money.
  • She wrote The Confidence Game to remove shame and reframe victims as people who can understand the mechanics of deception.
INSIGHT

Trust Is Our Default For Social Survival

  • Konnikova emphasizes humans are wired to trust as a default because cooperation is essential for society.
  • That default trust makes us vulnerable to skilled deceivers who exploit our need for social bonds.
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