Forgiveness : listener question

Dearest Clare,

I think I understand this concept but want to check it out to be sure and clear – forgiveness  

A few times you have mentioned not using forgiveness or acceptance anymore  --- as a bypass is how I heard it.

Now in Be the Change (and yes, I laugh along with you as you love this course and so do I !!!!), you bring in the Ho-oponopono for us to use with the mirror exercise.

It does say, I am sorry, Please forgive me –etc.

Is this forgiveness “right” because we have already seen and acknowledged source accountability?

In other words, we don’t use acceptance of another’s behavior or just flippantly forgiving them without seeing the mirror of the behavior in ourselves first?

How about forgiving ourselves as we are just conditioned by so much when these reactions/triggers/resentments arise in relationships (after the mirror of course)?