Dr. Maria Sophocles examines the “bedroom gap,” the disparity in sexual expectations and challenges between men and women in midlife. In this episode, she explains how menopausal hormonal changes, together with psychological and cultural pressures, affect women’s sexual agency. Many women internalize norms that prioritize a partner’s needs over their own, leading to shame about reduced libido. This conversation is a call to action for women to prioritize their sexual health and engage in honest dialogue to support healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Episode Overview (timestamps are approximate):
(0:00) Intro/Teaser
(5:00) The Bedroom Gap
(10:00) Hormones & The Neiman Marcus to IKEA Transition
(14:00) Systemic Estrogen vs. Vaginal & The Cancer Fear
(23:00) Hormone Therapy & The Healthy User Bias
(26:00) Non-Hormonal Options
(32:00) Sex After a Heart Attack
(40:00) Sex Span as Health Span
(42:00) Why Women Think Sex Is For Men
(49:00) Where to Learn About Sex
(55:00) How to Talk to Your Partner
(1:10:00) Redefining Sex at Any Age
(1:13:00) After Party with Dr. Stephanie

Resources mentioned can be found at https://drstephanieestima.com/podcasts/ep456

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