The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma} {RE-RECORD} EP 15: Lying as a Trauma Driven Behavior
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Jan 30, 2026 They explore why lying is so common and so triggering for caregivers. Neurobiology reframes lying as a nervous-system protection rather than a moral failure. Practical scenarios show how children lie to avoid harm, gain control, or meet needs. Strategies focus on regulation, boundaries paired with curiosity, and repairing interactions to encourage safer honesty.
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Lying Is A Normal Protective Behavior
- Lying is a normal human behavior that often protects an inner world when truth feels unsafe.
- Accepting its normalcy sets realistic expectations and avoids futile attempts to eradicate it.
Safety Drives Truth-Telling
- People lie when it doesn't feel safe to tell the truth because they expect worse outcomes by being honest.
- Felt safety, not just physical safety, determines whether truth feels like a viable option.
Lies Favor The Immediate Win
- Lying is often oriented to the immediate moment and solves a here-and-now problem for the child.
- Dysregulated kids struggle to think into the future, so short-term gains beat long-term consequences.
