Before You're Gaslit, Betrayed, and Deceived: How to Spot Con Artist | Love, Happiness, & Success | E497

Imagine realizing the person you trusted was intentionally deceiving you the entire time. This episode pulls back the curtain on how con artists operate and the psychological devastation left in their wake. You'll learn how deception works, why even smart, capable people fall victim, and the lasting emotions from stress and anger to deep regret. Most importantly, you’ll learn how to increase your awareness, find the right professional support, and begin to move on safely. It’s a heavy but important conversation that may help you recognize danger before it’s too late.

In this episode of Love, Happiness and Success, I’m joined by Johnathan Walton, an Emmy-winning former TV reporter and current reality TV producer, who became a leading voice on the psychology of the con artist after surviving a deeply destabilizing betrayal himself. He’s also the host, writer, and executive producer of the hit podcast Queen of the Con, and the author of Anatomy of a Con Artist.

Together, we talk about how con artists manipulate emotions (not intelligence), why “I’m just trying to help” can be an early warning sign, and what happens to your brain and body when the relationship you thought was real turns out to be built on lies. We also get practical: the red flags that show up across scams, romance cons, and long-game manipulation, plus steps you can take to protect yourself—and what to do if you realize you’ve already been pulled in.

A gentle note: This conversation includes explicit language and frank discussion of trauma responses, including intrusive revenge fantasies. Please take care of yourself while listening, and skip this one if you’re not in the right headspace today.

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 The Moment You Realize Someone Isn’t Who They Say They Are

01:05 Con Artists, Betrayal Trauma, and Why This Conversation Matters

02:05 Trigger Warning and How To Listen Safely

07:04 Johnathan’s Story: The “Irish Heiress” Con Artist Case

11:20 How a Con Artist Hooks You Through Emotional Manipulation

30:33 The Red Flags of a Con Artist and How Patterns Form

41:27 The Trauma Aftermath: Shame, Rage, and Losing Trust in Yourself

46:38 Protecting Yourself After a Con Artist Betrayal

52:35 Dr. Lisa’s Guidance on Betrayal Trauma Support

If you’re listening and realizing this episode connects to your own life, whether through a relationship, a financial loss, or the unsettling sense that something once trusted wasn’t real, I want you to have support, not just information. As a gift, I’d like to invite you to schedule a free consultation with my team at Growing Self. You’ll answer three quick questions, and we’ll help you book a private, secure consultation with the right counselor or coach for what you’re navigating right now. This is a thoughtful, low-pressure way to get clarity, feel supported, and take a steady next step forward.

You don’t have to navigate this alone.

xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Growing Self

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