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Faking It is Bad Advice

Aug 14, 2023

Discussion on why common advice like “fake it till you make it” can backfire and disconnect mind and body. Practical alternatives for preparing rather than pretending, including routines for appearance, mindset, and handling unplanned speaking moments. Stories and reflections on humility, expertise, and crafting believable affirmations to build genuine confidence.

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INSIGHT

Authenticity Is Where Body And Mind Align

Authenticity connects mind and body; faking it creates a dissonant, uncomfortable feeling that audiences sense.
Stephanie O'Day says when you feel 'phony baloney' your body betrays the act and the energy reads as inauthentic to others.

ADVICE

Create A Paint By Numbers Confidence Routine

Do map the exact behaviors of the confident person you want to be before stepping into a role.
Stephanie O'Day recommends journaling wardrobe, prep routines, posture, and minute-by-minute pre-stage steps to create a paint-by-numbers path to confidence.

ADVICE

Build Confidence By Collecting Evidence Not Pretending

Do build confidence by collecting evidence and practicing specific steps rather than pretending to already be an expert.
Stephanie advises checking off preparatory boxes (dress, rehearsal, pre-show rituals) so brain and body align over time.

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Slow Living Podcast with Host Stephanie O'Dea

Episode 97 - Faking It

see all podcast notes at stephanieodea.com/podcastnotes

This week’s episode is Part 2 of a 2-part series on Ignoring Bad Advice.

I didn’t know when I recorded episode 96 that I’d get another example of “bad advice” the very next day on a coaching call —

but I did — and I wanted you all to have the same info that I gave my client.

The same way “feel the fear and do it anyway” is terrible advice because asks that you ignore your instincts and intuitions —

“fake it ’till you make it” is equally (if not more so!) bad advice because you may put others (inadvertently, perhaps) at risk.

What do I mean? Okay — so, if you are new at a job — you are new. You are not experienced yet, nor are you an expert.

And that is alright! But don’t pretend to be something you’re not —

that will always backfire because your brain and body aren’t connected and you will know that you are lying.

and lying feels bad.

Similar episodes that will help:

#16 Matching Identity & Integrity

#37 How to Find Your Purpose

#88 Reprogramming Internal Dialogue

Overview

I love helping listeners embark upon their own journey to Slow Down, and live the life they’ve always dreamt about: one filled with peace, purpose, and abundance.

I understand how you’re feeling when you are rushing around trying to do “all the things,” always playing catch up and finding time to get things done.

I know because I’m a mom too.

It’s okay to stop and breathe. My philosophy isn’t about cramming more and more into an already over-packed schedule, instead I offer realistic tips and plans to get things done quickly and efficiently so you can do things you want to do.

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Stephanie's Story

I know what it feels like to want to live a calm, peaceful, and harmonious life but you feel like you can’t because there is simply too much to do. I believe that if we are lucky, life is long. You are not behind, and you don’t need to rush around, trying to catch up. My philosophy isn’t about cramming more and more into an already over-packed schedule.

Instead, I want to you to stop. Breathe. It’s all going to be okay.

I want you to live out the life you’ve always dreamt about — the one that gets you excited to get up in the morning and puts a goofy grin on your face.

Because the laundry, chores, soccer practice, meal planning, and litter box scooping? That’s not WHO you are; that’s not your identity. Those are the things you HAVE TO do.

So let’s make a realistic plan to get them over & done with, quickly & efficiently so you can finally be the person you’ve always wanted to be, and do the things you actually WANT TO do.

I am here to support you.

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