Therapy and Theology S11 E4 | "What Does It Mean To Be Relationally Healthy?" With Lysa TerKeurst
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Mar 5, 2026 
Lysa TerKeurst, author and speaker on Christian living and relationships, shares practical reflections on relational health. She explores the four destructive patterns that erode connection. Short takes cover codependency, better communication vs criticism, identifying root issues, and bringing prayer and spiritual practices into relationship work.
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Relationship Health Depends On Individual Work
- A relationship's health depends on the individuals bringing their best, healed selves into it.
- Lysa frames relational health as a midpoint between flourishing and destructive extremes, emphasizing progress not perfection.
Dodge The Four Horsemen Of Relationships
- Avoid John Gottman's four horsemen: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling.
- Lysa explains each one and links them to unchecked personal issues like codependency and poor boundaries.
Say What You Mean Without Saying It Mean
- Say what you mean without saying it mean; use I-statements and boundary-focused requests.
- Lysa models replacing “You always” attacks with observations like “We have different definitions of on time; how can we fix this?”
