Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction Attachment Theory and Addiction Recovery
In this webinar, CSAT therapist Jon Taylor offers a high-level overview of Attachment Theory, how it manifests as maturity in a relationship, and how it impacts sex addiction and betrayal trauma recovery. Jon and Tami then answer questions about attachment theory's role in creating strong relationships.
TAKEAWAYS:
[:55] The role of attachment theory in addiction recovery.
[1:58] The history and research of attachment theory.
[7:02] Emotions and comfort are not a luxury, they are a necessity.
[8:20] Maturity in a relationship is not making one another responsible for your attachment deficits.
[9:35] Patterns in baseline attachment styles.
[13:20] Recent findings in attachment theory.
[15:50] What does attachment theory teach about maturity in relationships?
[19:20] How does attachment style apply to couples in recovery?
[23:18] Contemplating real loss and forgiveness in recovery.
[27:40] How can I navigate trauma in a way that doesn't traumatize my children?
[29:55] Attachment and personality grow out of temperament, but presentation can change over time.
[35:04] Attachment explains everything, but it's not the answer to everything.
[36:10] As a partner, how can I preserve our progress and disengage early in the negative cycle?
[39:22] How can I overcome my attachment style to create a stronger marriage?
[43:51] How long should an SA be in treatment before making a long term relationship decision?
RESOURCES:
Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com
Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss
Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss
Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss
Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.
QUOTES
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"It's one of the most annoying parts of therapy, but it really does all come back to mom and dad."
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"Part of attachment theory is understanding that emotions and comfort are not a luxury, they are a necessity."
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"Maturity in a relationship is not making one another responsible for your attachment deficits."
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"Attachment theory is important but it does not totally dictate how we can and must show up in our relationships."
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"For maturity to take place, we have to learn how to control our impulses."
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"Attachment explains everything, but it's not the answer to everything."