Kelly Corrigan Wonders Going Deep with Julie and John Gottman on Fighting Right
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Apr 30, 2024 
Renowned relationship experts Julie and John Gottman share insights on effective communication and conflict resolution in relationships. They discuss the importance of bids for connection, managing emotional conflicts, and exploring vulnerabilities. Their research-based strategies can improve relationships with partners, family, and colleagues.
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Processing Regrettable Incidents
- Process regrettable incidents by taking turns expressing feelings and internal experiences.
- Acknowledge triggered feelings, take responsibility, apologize, and discuss future prevention.
Turning Towards Bids
- Pay attention to “bids” for connection, which are attempts to engage a partner.
- Turning towards bids strengthens relationships, while ignoring or responding with hostility damages them.
Emotional Money in the Bank
- Turning towards bids builds emotional “money in the bank,” fostering humor and reducing physiological arousal during conflict.
- Humor and positive interactions help manage stress and de-escalate tension.