Call Her Daddy Your Survival Guide to Dating Apps
Mar 12, 2023
Esteemed couples therapist Esther Perel joins to discuss the emotional turmoil of dating apps. She explains how these platforms commodify people, leading to feelings of rejection and disappointment. Esther emphasizes the importance of rethinking first dates as explorations rather than interviews and encourages cultivating friendships outside dating. With clever insights, she shares tips for fostering intimacy through shared experiences, spontaneity, and storytelling, while addressing the paradox of connection and loneliness in the digital age.
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Apps Turn Dating Into Emotional Commerce
- Dating apps turn people into commodities and force constant self-evaluation.
- Esther Perel calls this 'emotional capitalism' and says it creates a swallow-and-spit feeling.
Choose Active, Social Date Formats
- Be in motion on dates: walk, dance, or do activities together to access shared experiences.
- Bring dates into your social life so you see them in context and observe their social behavior.
Risk And Obstacles Fuel Erotic Excitement
- Attraction often increases with obstacles; removing risk reduces erotic excitement.
- Perel cites the erotic equation: attraction plus obstacle equals excitement.
