The Curious Introvert Ep. 331: Disentangling Faith from Religious Trauma [REMASTERED]
What do you do if you have religious trauma, but don't want to abandon your faith?
Catherine Quiring is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor who specializes in helping ex-evangelicals overcome religious trauma. In this episode, she shares what that looked like for her, how to know if you have limiting thoughts leftover from controlling doctrine, how to keep your faith while you separate from systems of control & how to find your own thoughts in a sea of “shoulds.”
This episode originally aired June 12, 2023
If you like this episode, you’ll also like episode 156 with Joshua Harris: SHOULD SEX BE SAVED FOR MARRIAGE?
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01:00 — Why harmful church experiences are more common than we think
03:00 — Fear tactics, hell doctrine & covert narcissism
04:00 — Codependent faith & the pressure to feel God
05:00 — OCD spirituality & micromanaging your soul
06:00 — When people become “projects,” not peers
07:00 — Catherine’s story: trauma at seven
11:00 — Deconstruction vs. deconversion (not the same)
12:00 — “You’re in or you’re out” — high-control community dynamics
13:00 — Wheaton College & the first cracks in certainty
14:00 — Reimagining God: from judge to shepherd
15:00 — Releasing harmful doctrine & reclaiming the divine
16:00 — Why this healing can take 20 years
17:00 — Step negative three: just notice how you feel
18:00 — Interoception vs. judgment
19:00 — Exploring Christian possibilities (hello, Jinger Duggar)
20:00 — Interoception vs. introspection
21:00 — Digging yourself out vs. listening to your body
22:00 — Your body has a language
23:00 — The painful “playback” of manipulation
24:00 — Talking to yourself like a friend would
25:00 — Reclaiming the parts that helped you survive
26:00 — When submission theology hits marriage
27:00 — The hidden pressure on men to be “the voice of God”
28:00 — Boundaries, anxiety & interrupting the cycle
29:00 — When honesty strengthens (or exposes) a marriage
30:00 — Practical healing recap
31:00 — Resources for staying Christian — but freer
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