The Simplicity Parenting Podcast with Kim John Payne #77: Easing Sibling Tensions Pt 4 – When A New Baby Comes Into The Family
Feb 18, 2020
Practical strategies for easing sibling tensions when a new baby arrives. Why early patterns shape long-term sibling dynamics. Simple techniques like replacement objects and the “meet and move” approach to defuse grabbing and tussles. Ways to involve and praise older children so they learn to help and fairness can be kept age-appropriate.
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Early Years Shape Sibling Trajectory
- Early sibling interactions set a trajectory that influences later relationships.
- Addressing dynamics when babies start grasping and crawling shapes future behavior patterns.
Use Replacement To Redirect Babies
- Do replace objects the baby grasps by offering a different toy and wiggling it in their palm.
- Use the palmar reflex to shift the baby's attention and recover the original object.
Address The Younger Child First
- Avoid scolding the older child by telling them they 'know better.'
- Instead, intervene by addressing and supporting the younger child directly to defuse tussles.