Become New with John Ortberg 27. The Law of Reciprocal Condemnation
Mar 4, 2026
A look at why judgment usually sparks counter-judgment and relational breakdown. Discussion of Dallas Willard’s idea that condemnation rarely produces change. Exploration of hidden responses like perfectionism, procrastination, rebellion, and passive aggression. Presentation of Paul’s surprising alternative: refuse revenge, bless enemies, and leave justice to God.
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Law Of Reciprocal Condemnation
- Condemnation rarely produces the desired change in others.
- Dallas Willard calls this the law of reciprocal condemnation: judgment breeds counter-judgment instead of repentance.
Do Not Repay Evil For Evil
- Do not repay evil for evil and, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
- Paul (Romans) advises leaving room for God's justice and instead overcome evil with good, which breaks the condemnation cycle.
Marriage Moment Shows Instant Countercondemnation
- John Ortberg describes a minor conflict with his wife over 'we time' versus car service scheduling.
- His immediate reaction was defensive and vengeful, illustrating how quickly counter-condemnation arises in close relationships.
