Rebel Parenting with Ryan & Laura Dobson

REBEL Parents "Get to" vs "Have to" (5 Minutes or Less)

Nov 22, 2022

A short reflection on choosing gratitude over guilt in parenting. He contrasts “have to” chores with “get to” opportunities to enjoy kids. Practical tips on showing appreciation through attention and presence. A late-night pickup story illustrates why small, available moments matter before kids become independent.

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INSIGHT

Parenting As A Reward Changes Everything

Viewing children as a reward changes your relationship and reduces shame about parenting.
Ryan Dobson says Psalm 127:3 reframed parenting for him and made interactions with his kids far more joyful.

ANECDOTE

Losing A Job Taught Me I Get To Work

Ryan lost a contract job during COVID and now says he never has to go to work; he gets to go to work.
He uses that perspective shift to illustrate why he willingly picked up his son at nearly 1:00 a.m. despite cold weather.

ADVICE

Show Up And Pay Attention In Small Moments

Pay full attention and appreciate the time you have with your kids by looking them in the eye.
Ryan advises showing up in small moments, like leaving a late-night fight watch to pick up his son at 1:00 a.m., because time slips by quickly.

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Hi Everyone, I'm Ryan Dobson, and this is REBEL Parenting FIVE MINUTES OR LESS.

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Psalm 127:3 "Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward."

When my children were young I was so ashamed of my parenting. It was such a dark place to be. Can you imagine how different my relationship with my kids is now that I see parenting as a reward! I want you to see parenting as a reward too, and one thing that helps me be a better parent, is REBEL Parents know, get to be good parents, they don't have to be good parents.

Saturday, March 14 I got a call informing me that my contract job was being canceled due to the lockdown… It was 6 months before I got steady work again, and let me tell you since that time, I've never "HAD" to go to work again. I GET to go to work!! WOO!

So, how do you show this to your kids? Start by truly appreciating the time you have with your kids. I was at a friend's house Saturday night watching the UFC fights. Lincoln came with me and was planning on spending the night with his friend. I left around 11:30pm. An hour later I got a text from Lincoln asking if I was "still up?" I knew what was coming. He wanted to be picked up. Now, I didn't have to pick him up. He planned to spend the night, I was ready for bed, and it was 12 degrees out. Who wants to go out in that? ME! Of course I picked up my son at nearly 1:00 o-clock in the morning. Because, as soon as he gets his driver's license, I'll never get to do this again.

The time slips by so quickly. Try not to wast it. Go tell your kids how much you love them and how much you love being their parent.

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