Dating Intentionally 215. How to Date with Intention and Find Your Person w/ Julie Krapfchick & Yue Xu (throwback)
Nov 28, 2025
Join dating experts Julie Krafchick, a practical dating strategist, and Yue Xu, who specializes in modern dating trends, as they explore intentional dating. Discover how to shift your mindset from outcome-driven to enjoying the process, and learn effective screening techniques for matches. They emphasize successful daters thrive by not needing a relationship but wanting one. The guests also dive into making dates fun again and the importance of understanding your dating 'north star'. Plus, they play a rapid-fire game addressing common dating red flags!
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Dating Fatigue Is A Mindset Problem
- Dating fatigue comes from treating dates as outcome-driven rather than fun experiences.
- Reframe dates as chances to meet interesting people and enjoy the moment to restore dating magic.
Use One Intentional Question, Not A Quiz
- Avoid carrying a preset list of questions into dates; listen instead and follow natural threads.
- If you use prompts, limit to one well-timed question focused on what you want to learn.
Reframe Long Single Periods As Growth
- Reframe long single periods as growth time and articulate what you learned during them.
- Use those learnings to pivot from ‘I've been single forever’ to 'I prioritized X and now I want Y.'