Ladies, We Need To Talk 'All Women Want' — how to have great sex, with Alyx Gorman
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Mar 31, 2025 
Alyx Gorman, lifestyle editor at The Guardian Australia and author of 'All Women Want,' dives deep into the complex world of female sexuality and pleasure. She addresses the significant orgasm gap between heterosexual women and men, emphasizing the need for better communication in sexual relationships. Alyx also explores generational differences in sexual practices, including the controversial topic of choking. With anecdotes from her experiences, including a revealing visit to a sex party, she encourages women to embrace their desires and enhance their sexual fulfillment.
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Musky 600 Person Sex Party As Research
- Alyx Gorman attended a 600-person sex party as research and described the smell as musky, primal, and predominantly female arousal.
- She compared the event to a dating app-style party where women must approach men, making it a distinctive research setting.
Asking What She Wants Is The Most Reproducible Move
- The single most reproducible factor in remarkable sex was partners asking what the woman wanted and liked.
- Alyx found many women said the hottest sex of their lives happened when a partner simply asked and listened.
The Orgasm Gap Is A Straight People Problem
- The orgasm gap mainly affects heterosexual partnerships: men orgasm around 9/10 times versus women around 6/10 times.
- For most women, orgasms are achievable with proper care; the gap reflects how sex is being done, not innate inability.
