Influence & Impact for Leaders Ep 176 – What to do when you care too much as a leader
Dec 2, 2024
A leader discusses how empathy can become a liability when unbalanced. The conversation explores values that create moral conflict during tough decisions. Listeners hear about unhelpful beliefs that inflate responsibility for others. Practical tools are shared: circles of control, ways to process difficult feelings, and peer supervision plus self-care strategies.
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Strengths Can Become Lopsided Leadership
- Even strengths can become weaknesses when overused and create imbalances in leadership.
- Carla Miller explains 'lopsided leadership' where overplaying collaboration delays action and empathy without boundaries drains you.
Holding Values Too Tightly Harms Decisions
- Values held too tightly can make normal organizational decisions feel morally wrong and cause misalignment.
- Carla Miller uses empathy and harmony as examples where leaders must find a healthy version to avoid paralysis during restructures.
Beliefs That Make Leaders Carry Others' Emotions
- Unhelpful beliefs create unnecessary responsibility for others' emotions, increasing leader burden and burnout risk.
- Carla Miller highlights the belief 'I'm responsible for my team's happiness' as unrealistic and damaging to resilience.