MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women Channel ADHD gaslighting and chasing new relationship energy (Reddit Reactions) | Sorry, I Missed This
Mar 26, 2026
They read messy Reddit love stories about memory being weaponized and signs of emotional manipulation. They unpack DARVO, how working memory issues get exploited, and when safety and exit matter. They talk loneliness, the pressure to pair up, and whether relationships equal acceptance. They explore new relationship energy, ADHD-driven novelty seeking, and alternatives to feeling stuck in boring routines.
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Memory Can Be Used As A Manipulation Tool
- Memory problems can be weaponized by partners to gaslight someone with ADHD or OCD.
- The poster describes repeated instances where her boyfriend insists she promised things she doesn't recall, suggesting manipulation rather than progressive memory loss.
Leave If Your Partner Uses DARVO Against You
- Trust your gut and consider leaving relationships where your memory is repeatedly denied or used against you.
- Kate Osborne advises exiting when a partner repeatedly denies events and uses DARVO tactics to reverse victim and offender roles.
Childhood Exclusion Made Relationship Acceptance Feel Essential
- A woman in her 30s links lifelong social rejection to childhood learning disability and now equates being in a relationship with social acceptance.
- She explains people respected her more in high school once she had a boyfriend, which shaped her belief that relationships equal normalcy.