MOMENT | The ‘Good Girl’ Trap That’s Burning Mothers Out

Have you ever felt like you’re trying so hard to be a good mum… but somehow it still never feels like enough?

In this Moment, Zoe talks about good girl conditioning – the deeply ingrained beliefs many of us carry into motherhood without realising it. The need to be agreeable, to keep the peace, to over-give, and to measure our worth by how much we do.

When these patterns come into motherhood, they don’t disappear – they intensify. Suddenly, we’re not just trying to be a good girl, we’re trying to be a perfect mum. And that can leave us exhausted, resentful, and disconnected from ourselves.

This episode is about recognising that there is nothing wrong with you. These are learned behaviours – and they can be unlearned.

In this Moment, we explore:

• What good girl conditioning is – and how it shows up in motherhood
• Why people-pleasing and perfectionism lead to burnout, not fulfilment
• How meeting your own needs and setting boundaries creates real confidence

If you’ve ever felt burnt out from trying to be everything to everyone, this one’s for you.

If you liked this moment, listen to the full episode: Breaking Free From Perfectionism and People-Pleasing

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