The New Age Sage Podcast #114 - Stop Testing Love: How You're DESTROYING Your Relationship Without Realizing It
Jul 9, 2025
The discussion delves into how testing love often reflects deeper trauma responses. It explores the link between childhood abandonment and adult relationship behaviors, revealing common testing signs like jealousy and miscommunication. Fear of loss drives these impulses, while self-sabotage can create cycles of abandonment. The host introduces the concept of Jungian shadow work as a way to understand and heal these patterns. Techniques for self-regulation and the importance of personal ownership in relationships are emphasized, promoting a shift from fear to love.
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Scarcity Mindset Blocks Receiving Love
- Lucas compares love to money: scarcity mindset blocks reception of blessings.
- Gratitude lets you receive love, while fear makes you hoard and miss it.
Unconscious Sabotage Wants The Fear To Be True
- Part of you may unconsciously want abandonment because the unconscious proves its fears.
- Imagining loss repeatedly can be a form of self-sabotage that keeps you safe from love.
Projection Masks An Unintegrated Shadow
- Testing often comes from an unintegrated shadow that you repress and project onto partners.
- You outsource healing to your partner but only inner work can fix the split.