Raising Good Humans S2 Ep 33: “I Can, Therefore I Must” - The Risks of High Achieving Stressors and the Powerful Protection of Close Relationships (Rerun)
Dec 24, 2021
In this engaging discussion, psychologist Suniya Luthar explores the surprising vulnerabilities of children in high-achieving environments. She emphasizes that resilience is built through supportive relationships, not merely a trait. Suniya addresses the dangers of pressure from parents and schools, advocating for unconditional love and nurturing children's identities beyond academic success. With insights on balancing praise and maintaining open communication, she highlights the necessity of protecting children's self-worth and fostering their well-being.
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Resilience Is A Process Not A Trait
- Resilience is not a personality trait but doing well under stress across domains like school, peers, and mental health.
- Suniya Luthar frames resilience as assets we can build to help children buffer adversity.
High-Achieving Schools As A Risk Factor
- High-achieving schools are now recognized as a demographic risk due to excessive pressures to achieve.
- This risk is tied to school-level affluence and intense achievement cultures, not to individual wealth per se.
The 'I Can, Therefore I Must' Credo
- The pervasive credo in these communities is "I can, therefore I must," driving relentless pressure to accomplish more.
- Pressure comes from parents, teachers, coaches, real estate markets, and the broader community.
