Recalibration: listener question

I noticed how much of my life I'm navigating from my feelings. How I'm deciding to do or not to do something (for a example call a person on phone) on the basis how I feel in that moment. Even considering myself confident or not confident is perceived or judged from my feeling. I guess this is a part of my conditioning. I also loved your explanation on a HOME course how this learned system is corresponding with circumstances and others moment by moment. I understand this as

taking actions and behaviours away from pain towards the pleasure to benefit the system, which is totally arbitrary thing for each of us. It looks like there is hierarchy inside the system choosing  actions and behaviours moment by moment in correspondence with what is learned. 

Do you you have any thoughts on that? Are we somehow recalibrating our systems with this new understanding?