Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson Terry Real: Relationships, Trauma, and Inner Child Work
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Jun 9, 2025 
Terry Real, a renowned family therapist and author known for his work on masculinity and relationships, dives into the factors that sabotage intimacy. He discusses the shift from 'me' to 'us' and emphasizes the importance of relational mindfulness in overcoming conflicts. Real introduces concepts like the Adaptive Child and Wise Adult, shedding light on how childhood experiences shape adult relationships. A standout moment includes an engaging inner child exercise that invites deeper emotional connection. Prepare to rethink your approach to nurturing relationships!
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Use Subjective Requests in Conflict
- Speak subjectively to soften conflict and make requests instead of complaints.
- Shift from fighting to teamwork for faster, more effective conflict resolution.
Adaptive Child vs. Wise Adult
- The "adaptive child" acts automatically to protect us but hinders intimacy.
- The "wise adult" uses reason and mindfulness to regulate emotional flooding.
Practice Relational Mindfulness
- Use relational mindfulness to pause and move from reactivity to wise adult responses.
- Take breaks when flooded to regulate yourself before reconnecting.
